50–50 Love Partnership? No, you can’t have one.
You will never find someone who is going to love you the way you do. You will never share a partnership of 50–50 with them. There will always be the one who is going to love more and there will always be a one who is going to love the other one less. Certainly, it’s more like the one is going to love more when the other person is loving themselves less.
Because life doesn’t work on the formulation of 50–50, it is not a business deal. It does not solely depend on how much you invest but it depends on how well you share whatever comes in front of you. For most of us whenever we talk about LOVE we all end up saying that it is all that we feel but I guess it’s moreover like how we do and what we do. LOVE is a verb like it was quoted in The 7 Habits Of Highly Effective People “ Love is something you do: the sacrifices you make, the giving of self, like a mother bringing a newborn into the world. If you want to study love, study those who sacrifice for others, even for people who offend or do not love in return. If you are a parent, look at the love you have for the children you sacrificed for. Love is a value that is actualized through loving actions. Proactive people subordinate feelings to values. Love, the feeling, can be recaptured.”
I have often heard people saying that it should always be equal but I guess it can’t be equal always because we all can’t do everything and that is where the whole problem lies because we think and expect them to do whatever we want to instead of focusing on what they can do better and whatnot. The partnership is never sharing the percentage it is also about sharing the load in all the ways possible. When partners end up fighting it is always HE vs HER and not THEM vs PROBLEM.
Being the strength of each other when you cannot cope, coming to each other being the last hope and the only source of strength while you are been weighed down by the burden of the whole world. Your spine can’t take the load.
Being with each other like how you need oxygen to survive, being the one who doesn’t walk away when things get tough. Winning the war of love with all dignity and pride you have for yourself and for each other. Making sure to stick by each others side and proving it to each other that there is someone out there who is not going to give up on you no matter how tough it gets, no matter how dark it gets. HE/SHE will stay.
Being that ray of light and hope to each other when nothing else is working. Being the sunshine and lighting up the life of each other, assuring each other from time to time that things can or might go haywire but we will stick by each other and fight together like a team.
Being each others best friend when one falls short of being the best. Because both of them needs to be the best for each other and not for the world. There is nothing that should be proved to the world. The only thing that matter is that you love and you are each others best friend.
Resenting on the flaws is a big NO but helping each other to fix the things is always that matter the most.
Be with someone because you want to be a part of their life and your life too. No matter what you go through. Keep choosing each other overall high, hurdles and the things which can come in your way. Life will keep kicking you in teeth but learn to fight back. Stand up for each other and help when one fall short. It’s okay if you don’t know how to fix every shard of hurt, pain. But always find a way to love each other no matter what always find a way to show your love.
Keep it realistic not materialistic. There will be moments when one will play the role of leader and the other just have to follow. There will be moments when you have to be more for one another and that moment will help you to survive against all odds.
